Written by: Hannah Bollinger
Have you ever had one of those days where you try on just about every outfit in your closet only to be left with a tornado of clothes on the floor and a feeling of frustration because it seems like you have nothing to wear!?
OK Ladies…so what’s the real issue? For most of us the issue isn’t that we don’t have enough clothes; the issue is that our clothes don’t make us feel pretty enough or we feel like everything makes us look ten pounds heavier!
Sound familiar to anyone?
I remember when I found out that I was pregnant with my son 2 ½ years ago – I was overcome with joy! The news was ‘a dream come true’ for my husband and I. Though I have to admit I was nervous at first about gaining all the baby weight.
Can any of you mamas relate?
I knew that the “little life” growing inside of me needed me to gain weight so that he could be healthy and the more I focused on that, the more I stopped caring so much about the number on the scale.
Our mommy bodies go through lots of changes from having babies and it can be a struggle to feel beautiful sometimes. It also doesn’t help that the world sends us some confusing messages about beauty which make it tough for us to feel like we “measure up.” Most of us will never look like the models on the covers of magazines. Thankfully we don’t have to in order to be considered beautiful in God’s eyes! God made us each unique, fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) and we are not supposed to look exactly the same.
The hustle and bustle of motherhood can sometimes leave us with little time to spend on our physical appearances. It can be a challenge to keep a healthy perspective of beauty, but one thing that helps me is to spend time reading about women in the bible. “The Wife of Noble Character” is described in Proverbs 31:10-31, and this passage offers an illustration of true beauty and a reminder of what God desires for us to become as women. Some of the wording might sound a little old-fashioned (e.g. most of us mamas probably aren’t going to hand-sew all the clothes for our family) but the underlying message still applies to modern day women. What I think God wants us to pay attention to is the character of this woman. She is someone who is “…worth far more than rubies” (vs. 10) and why?—because she is someone who is trustworthy, hard-working, selfless, generous, wise, loving, strong ,faithful, joyful and she cares for her family (versus 11-29).
Did you know that this passage makes about 18 references to the character of this woman and only makes 2 references related to her outward appearance (mentioning her strong arms in vs. 17 and her clothes in vs. 22)? Hmmm…maybe God’s trying to tell us something! It’s easy to get caught up in thinking what makes us beautiful is solely how we look on the outside, but God’s message to us is clear—our hearts matter SO much more!!!
There’s nothing wrong with taking some time to pay attention to your physical appearance. I personally try to make exercise a regular part of my life, I spend a little time on my hair and make-up in the morning and I occasionally go shopping for cute outfits. It’s just important to remember our beauty goes far beyond the size of our jeans and the cuteness of our haircuts.
“Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30).
Even on the days when the best you can do is to put on some sweatpants and throw your hair up in a pony tail because you’ve been up all night with a sick baby— you are still beautiful in God’s eyes. Sometimes just the act of being a loving mommy who cares for her children is one of the most beautiful things in the world.
From one mommy to another,
I’m a blessed wife. I’m a stay-at-home mom to one precious son (a true miracle). Jesus is my Savior. I have a B.A. in Human Development/Early Childhood Education. I taught Kindergarten for 1 year and preschool for 3 years. Daisies are my favorite flower. I like to cook and I love to bake. I have a creative side and enjoy making crafts. I’m not fond of bugs but I love ladybugs. I am a runner and I like to stay in shape. I enjoy home decorating. Coffee gets me going in the morning! ~Hannah~
Link to my blog Pocketful of Motherhood: pocketfulofmotherhood.wordpress.com